Comments on: Is Christianity Anti-Romance?

By: Roger Overton

Roger Overton — Thu, 23 Jul 2009 04:24:44 +0000

Thanks Gabriel,
I agree that the “fire is gone” is a poor reason for divorce, as it’s certainly not a biblical one. It does point to a foundational problem in the marriage- that it was based on fleeting emotions rather than grounded in a deep companionship and external community.

As a young single man I can’t speak from experience on just how a long marriage deepens romance, but I’ve certainly seen that it happens. My understanding is that a good romance is rooted in true companionship, and the true companionship in marriage will inflame romantic love (I would suggest there may be something wrong if it doesn’t). As couples get to know each other even better through the joys and trials of all the years, it seems that greater romance and companionship should naturally follow. One of those things that is always a joy in life to witness is the enduring romance of older couples.

By: Gabriel Pagel

Gabriel Pagel — Wed, 22 Jul 2009 22:35:16 +0000

Thanks for the post! This is something I have been wrestling with for a long time, because we, as a culture, hold romantic love up so high we think if the “fire is gone” its a reason to divorce. This cannot be true!

I wonder if the best romantic love can come out of a correct understanding and striving for companionship love? Wouldn’t the experience of 50+ years together deepen your romance?

By: Aaron Snell

Aaron Snell — Wed, 22 Jul 2009 16:16:23 +0000

I can just imagine what John Mark Reynolds would say in response to that article

And good call on the pic.